Today I drove Annie to school and in the car, she asked: Do I have Bipolar?
I said, no, you don;t have.
Bipolar has depression and mania and you don';t have Mania.
Then why I was irritated so easily?
I told her, you are teenager now and its normal for you to feel emotional. this is normal growth.
she didn;t see anything and left the car.
At least she wants to talk to me.
Monday, September 23, 2019
Thursday, September 19, 2019
9.19.19
Last night, Annie looked very stressed out and upset. I asked her why and she told me that she felt very overwhelmed with a lot of tasks going on in her life. Chinese, piano, etc.
I told her if learning piano really makes her unhappy, we have no reason to continue. Learning piano is supposed to be fun and relax. But if it makes her stressed out and torture, then it's not worth it.
I also told her that if she really hates learning Chinese, she doesn't have to score high. She can learn Spanish as a second language at high school and stop Chinese then.
If you are mentally not healthy, what;'s the point to be have high score at certain things.
Today I hiked with two people and really wanted to have Annie and Nathan to go to Chinese church for youth gathering. I feel it can help them find people who have same background. They might find themselves accepted easily. However, Annie refused to go no matter what.
She was very upset with me when I told her to go.
I don't know if I should force her to go, OR, if I am even able to.
Her braces don't fit her teeth since she has not worn it for a week. We need to go back to see orthodontist tomorrow again and we might need to make a new impression. I don; 't even know if we are going to be charged more.
And I texted piano teacher that Annie is not going to lesson .....
Another hard day today.
Please, GOD, give me wisdom about how I can let Annie to go to church.
I told her if learning piano really makes her unhappy, we have no reason to continue. Learning piano is supposed to be fun and relax. But if it makes her stressed out and torture, then it's not worth it.
I also told her that if she really hates learning Chinese, she doesn't have to score high. She can learn Spanish as a second language at high school and stop Chinese then.
If you are mentally not healthy, what;'s the point to be have high score at certain things.
Today I hiked with two people and really wanted to have Annie and Nathan to go to Chinese church for youth gathering. I feel it can help them find people who have same background. They might find themselves accepted easily. However, Annie refused to go no matter what.
She was very upset with me when I told her to go.
I don't know if I should force her to go, OR, if I am even able to.
Her braces don't fit her teeth since she has not worn it for a week. We need to go back to see orthodontist tomorrow again and we might need to make a new impression. I don; 't even know if we are going to be charged more.
And I texted piano teacher that Annie is not going to lesson .....
Another hard day today.
Please, GOD, give me wisdom about how I can let Annie to go to church.
Monday, September 16, 2019
9.16.2019
今天睡觉前我在电脑前，安妮走过来问明天可以去YMCA。我说可以。她看我在电脑上玩游戏，便问是什么。我演示给她看，她饶有兴趣的试了以下，说，o , 我记得这个。
她和我一起作在椅子上，我手搭着她的肩膀，她也没有抗拒。
今天，无事。
她和我一起作在椅子上，我手搭着她的肩膀，她也没有抗拒。
今天，无事。
Monday, August 26, 2019
女儿的抑郁
三月中旬的一个平平常常的日子，我在医院值班，突然手机上显示初中学校的来电。我的心一阵揪紧，以为儿子又调皮捣蛋犯事了。结果竟然是关于女儿的。
意想不到的是女儿写了封绝笔信给好友。好友报告给了学校。学校异常重视，立刻找她谈话并打电话给我。收到电话我简直是难以置信。
女儿一向乖巧懂事，非常独立。在学校是好学生，在家里自己的事情也是料理的非常好。她的脾气很倔，很执拗，而且容易生气，一生气了很久都好不了。最近半年身体发育，好像脾气还有性格都变化了很多。
我忙于工作，尤其是最近一年和儿子斗争，完全忽视了女儿的成长，和她交流的机会和时间特别少。她刚入初中，交了新朋友，我竟然都没有见过，也完全不了解。
电话放下后，我头疼的难受，工作做完后急匆匆赶往学校，和学校的指导老师交流了一下，把女儿接回家。
接下来的几天，和学校提供的心理辅导老师交流，和女儿交流。
我尽量做到不主动，而是让她说，并陪这她一起买她自己的小玩意，听她的意见和想法。
过去半年都不知道从什么时候起她不再愿意让我摸她的头，抱抱她，还以为都是她长大变了，现在发现原来是我们之间的隔阂越来越深，她不再亲近我相信我了。这几天下来我再要抱抱她亲亲她，她也不再抗拒了。
几个月下来，问题越来越严重，远比我当初想的要严重很多。她对父母的仇恨和不信任估计已经到了无法弥补的地步。我们完全进入不了她的心。她恨我们。
意想不到的是女儿写了封绝笔信给好友。好友报告给了学校。学校异常重视，立刻找她谈话并打电话给我。收到电话我简直是难以置信。
女儿一向乖巧懂事，非常独立。在学校是好学生，在家里自己的事情也是料理的非常好。她的脾气很倔，很执拗，而且容易生气，一生气了很久都好不了。最近半年身体发育，好像脾气还有性格都变化了很多。
我忙于工作，尤其是最近一年和儿子斗争，完全忽视了女儿的成长，和她交流的机会和时间特别少。她刚入初中，交了新朋友，我竟然都没有见过，也完全不了解。
电话放下后，我头疼的难受，工作做完后急匆匆赶往学校，和学校的指导老师交流了一下，把女儿接回家。
接下来的几天，和学校提供的心理辅导老师交流，和女儿交流。
我尽量做到不主动，而是让她说，并陪这她一起买她自己的小玩意，听她的意见和想法。
过去半年都不知道从什么时候起她不再愿意让我摸她的头，抱抱她，还以为都是她长大变了，现在发现原来是我们之间的隔阂越来越深，她不再亲近我相信我了。这几天下来我再要抱抱她亲亲她，她也不再抗拒了。
几个月下来，问题越来越严重，远比我当初想的要严重很多。她对父母的仇恨和不信任估计已经到了无法弥补的地步。我们完全进入不了她的心。她恨我们。
Tuesday, August 11, 2015
why man can't be pregnant/
妮妮和贝贝最近对人体特别感兴趣。尤其是妮妮，对女性的breast 非常好奇，而且每天追问我人是如何出生的，为什么男人不能生孩子，不能喂奶。为什么上帝造人是这样的。而且还很喜欢观察谁谁乳房发育了。
贝贝呢，则开始口不择言说什么人家十四五岁的女孩子怀孕了，还说是同性恋等等。
看来他们已经开始进入了对男女感兴趣的话题。
该怎么想想如何和他们开启这个话题。汤塞是不行的。
贝贝呢，则开始口不择言说什么人家十四五岁的女孩子怀孕了，还说是同性恋等等。
看来他们已经开始进入了对男女感兴趣的话题。
该怎么想想如何和他们开启这个话题。汤塞是不行的。
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